Monday, April 27, 2015

Dinner Time Bliss

A friend of mine asked how I handle dinner with three kids, specifically three boys. I thought I would write about it.

Having three boys is wonderful but it comes with some stressful moments. One of those moments is dinner time. Rob works during the dinner hour 5 nights a week. Trust me, the thoughts of having fast food or something I can easily throw into the microwave were tempting but they certainly were not the healthiest choice for my family. So here is the process that worked for me (remember every family is different).

Step one is I sat down and figured out what the boys like and recipes I could introduce to the boys with hopes they would like them. I used Pinterest as my inspiration as well as family recipes.

Step two is to keep things SIMPLE. It is very possible to cook a quick, easy, and HEALTHY meal. I am up to 15 meals that I interchange every month.

Step three is make a PLAN. Meal plan! I bought a cheap calendar from Dollar Tree and filled in our dinner menu for every night. Depending on circumstances (going out of town, special occasion) I always stick to what I have planned. This is very important. Stick with your plan! Grocery shopping is a lot easier because you have your meals planned and you can make your list accordingly.

Step four begins the cooking process. With three boys, there will always be someone who will need my attention. I make sure I take care of all their needs before starting dinner. I will let Logan and Landon watch a movie while I cook and Liam will play contently. If Liam is not happy I will have him sit in the high chair and watch me cook (he is in his separation anxiety stage). I have accepted that sometimes there will be some crying or a temper tantrum being thrown as I cook. One way I try to reduce that is I will let Logan and Landon help me (get a pot out for me or put an ingredient in the pot).

Step  five is do what is necessary. This is more for after dinner. If the boys need me I will wait and clean the kitchen once they are happy.

The most important step is eat together. Even though Rob is not home during dinner, we still eat together. I think eating together has helped our dinner time go a lot smoother.

It was and still is a learning process about the dinner hour. I had to find out what keeps them happy and out of trouble while my attention is on something else. I stressed it in one of the steps but will stress again. Have a plan and stick to it.

Oh dear friend, there are times when I want to surrender at dinner time and not cook. I push through those temptations because I know it is better for my family if I cook and it gives me a chance to learn how to help my family function.

I don't know if this helped any of my readers and like I said, every family is different, so you have to find what works for you. This is how I manage three boys and dinner.

Saturday, April 25, 2015

I Am Not Perfect

I watched Mom's Night Out tonight. It was funny and a great movie. It also encouraged me. It reminded me that as a mom, I don't need to be perfect. I am not perfect. I am a mess. My house is a mess. My boys are a mess (well not at the moment because they are sleeping but you get my point). The movie made me realize I put too much emphasis on trying to have things be perfect. Not everything will be perfect. Mistakes will be made. Accidents will happen. Messes will happen.
The great thing about mistakes, accidents, and messes is that they can be cleaned up or fixed. I can learn from my mistakes and keep going. I can clean up the messes. I can fix the accidents and clean those up. I can continue on the journey of motherhood embracing the moments that aren't how I envision them. The moments that aren't how I envision them will give character to the future and make for great stories and memories.
The movie reminded me that I don't have to be good enough for everyone else. Through all the imperfections I am God's masterpiece and that needs to be enough for me.
I am not perfect and that is okay because I am perfect enough for God.

If you haven't seen Mom's Night Out, I suggest you do. :)

Saturday, April 18, 2015

Laughter is the BEST Medicine!

I have a coffee mug that I got as a Christmas present from a dear friend of mine. On it is one simple word: 'laugh'. I use it every morning. Mornings here can be a little crazy but when I take a sip of my coffee or tea and I read that word, laugh, I stop and look around and find joy in the crazy moments. If you read my blog, you know I struggle with stress and being worried over everything but I'm learning to find joy in everything instead of seeing things to be stressed over.

Last week when my boys dumped all their toys all over the living room, instead of stressing out and seeing a mess I took a moment and laughed. I found joy in that they were playing hard surrounded by all of their toys.

I still have my moments of wanting to stress out about things instead of finding joy but then I take a sip of my coffee and am instantly reminded to laugh. I can laugh at myself for thinking a situation was stressful. I think I create my own stress. I just need to relax. I need to stay calm. I need to laugh because laughter is the best medicine. I need to find joy.

The Bible talks so much about laughter. Here are some verses:


So, I challenge you as well as myself to laugh today. Find reasons to laugh instead of worry.