With all that said, you can bet that my husband and I are raising our children to apologize when they make a mistake, mess up, or hurt someone. We have our kids apologize to each other here at home when they do something to hurt each other. We have our kids apologize to our friends and family when they hurt them.We believe having children apologize at a young age will help them take responsibility for their actions as they grow into teenagers and into adults. Our six year old made a mistake this past week at school. He is a pretty good kid, however this past week he yelled in defiance at his teacher when his teacher asked him to stop a behavior that was not compliant with classroom rules. When Logan got home from school and I read what he had done, I asked Logan if he apologized to his teacher at all before leaving school that day. He said he did not. Since Logan is only in Kindergarten and they do not have much homework, I had Logan's homework be that he write an apology letter to his teacher.
If you are a parent, I am not sure if you would have your child do the same. If you are a teacher, I am not sure if a kindergarten apology would mean much to you especially, since young kids at this age are still growing/aren't perfect/testing boundaries. Having Logan write an apology letter made me feel better. I believe it helped Logan acknowledge that his behavior toward his teacher was wrong and that he does not treat his teacher or future teachers the way he did. Logan's teacher was very appreciative of the apology note. Knowing Logan's teacher was appreciative of the note means a lot to me, because it was confirmation that I, as a mom, made the right choice for Logan to apologize. Logan even said he apologized as he handed the note to his teacher.
I know Logan is only six and he will probably make many more mistakes in a classroom. If he learned anything from this week, I hope he learned that he needs to apologize when he hurts someone. I hope he learned that he needs to take responsibility for his actions. I hope he learned how important it is to respect those in authority and those he is around everyday.
I also hope that Logan's teacher forgave him. An important part of apologizing is also knowing that you are forgiven. As adults it is easy to not forgive someone when they've hurt us because we would rather hold a grudge. I have held grudges before and holding grudges only makes things worse. I hope Logan knows that his teacher forgave him, that my husband and I forgave him, and I hope he forgave himself.
In doing some study on biblical apologies, these are the verses I came across that relate to what my husband and I are teaching our kids. The Bible teaches us to apologize and forgive. These verses are were taught to us when it came to apologizing and forgiving and we will be teaching the same to our kids. I am not sure on the beliefs of my readers, I hope these help you as well when it comes to apologizing/forgiving.